After a "break-up", especially an emotional one, many people sit and stare at their phones (or these days, their email accounts, of even facebook!) in the hope that your former lover will contact you. This is, of course, understandable, but you certainly don't want your lover to find out. It's not the best way to get your ex back. As we have discussed, showing desperation is showing weakness, and to many people it is simply pathetic to see someone too eager to be with you.
"Showing your heart on your sleeve" is the way one girl once told me...:(
Or something like that. I have forgotten it, and her, but not the lesson! So I hope you can learn it without the pain that it caused me and many, many others....
What's the best way to get someone back? Be scarce! Some people call this "playing hard to get". I'm not sure if that is right or not, but people like what's scarce...gold...diamonds...oil...and hopefully you!
Distance that person from your life for a while. Meet new people and do different things. Get out of your comfort zone. Don't respond to phone calls. Perhaps get a new hobby that will get you out of the house on a regular basis.
Then start planning your return....and we'll have more on that later...till then, leave some questions if you got any. :)
Friday, September 4, 2009
Thursday, September 3, 2009
Some Dating Suggestions
While you're thinking about what went wrong in your relationship, it might be a good idea to consider some dating don'ts.
For example, there are some things that women should probably not do when on a date with a man. Many of these things can be relationship killers. Be careful. You have been warned.
It's probably not a good idea to go into your life story. Save it for another day. Most likely his eyes will simply glaze over, or he will start looking around the room. Always keep your answers short and sweet, he will most likely ask for details later. That's one way to judge his interest in you. Does he ask follow-up questions?
For instance, is he asks how many brothers and sisters you have, just tell him the number. Don't go into your life with them, your interactions with them, or what you think of them. Just stick to the facts and you will do fine.
Make it a rule of thumb to ask him at least one question for every question he asks you. Don't talk too much. Give him a chance to talk and be a good listener. (Men - this goes for you too!; I see you laughing. :) )
One thing you never want to do is lie. Got that? Never, ever lie! I really believe that lies will catch up with you sooner or later. Many women (and men) lie about their age, marital status, employment, height, weight and a host of other things in their online profiles. That is a huge mistake. If you find a man who you are really interested in, he will find out you lied and there goes any possibility of the relationship progressing. So, just be honest. There is someone out there who will like you - even come to love you - for exactly the person you are.
And don't be too eager. It makes you look desperate and it really puts a man off. They are first and foremost conquerors and if getting the person of their desires to like them too is just too easy, they will quickly lose interest. I don't mean play "hard-to-get."
Play it safe and play it cool. Do that and you can get what - and who - you want.
For example, there are some things that women should probably not do when on a date with a man. Many of these things can be relationship killers. Be careful. You have been warned.
It's probably not a good idea to go into your life story. Save it for another day. Most likely his eyes will simply glaze over, or he will start looking around the room. Always keep your answers short and sweet, he will most likely ask for details later. That's one way to judge his interest in you. Does he ask follow-up questions?
For instance, is he asks how many brothers and sisters you have, just tell him the number. Don't go into your life with them, your interactions with them, or what you think of them. Just stick to the facts and you will do fine.
Make it a rule of thumb to ask him at least one question for every question he asks you. Don't talk too much. Give him a chance to talk and be a good listener. (Men - this goes for you too!; I see you laughing. :) )
One thing you never want to do is lie. Got that? Never, ever lie! I really believe that lies will catch up with you sooner or later. Many women (and men) lie about their age, marital status, employment, height, weight and a host of other things in their online profiles. That is a huge mistake. If you find a man who you are really interested in, he will find out you lied and there goes any possibility of the relationship progressing. So, just be honest. There is someone out there who will like you - even come to love you - for exactly the person you are.
And don't be too eager. It makes you look desperate and it really puts a man off. They are first and foremost conquerors and if getting the person of their desires to like them too is just too easy, they will quickly lose interest. I don't mean play "hard-to-get."
Play it safe and play it cool. Do that and you can get what - and who - you want.
Wednesday, September 2, 2009
The Best Way to Get an Ex Back!
If you're just experiencing a break-up or you're wondering how to get your ex back then this could be the most important blog you will ever read!
Almost all adults go through some sort of break-up. Many just try to move on rather than work at getting an ex back. For most of them, this means months (possibly years) of emotional pain.
However, if you no longer want to be a victim, and you want to get your ex back, then there are many options for you.
The truth is, about 90% of the time there is probably no reason why you can't get your ex back, IF you know how to do it!
The first step is to figure out what caused the break-up in the first place. True, you can't go back into the past and you can't change it either, but there are many lessons from the past that can be learned! You can change your future if you want to. You can learn from your mistakes and you can grow from all these experiences, both good and bad.
Perhaps the break-up was caused by a single event...or a series of events...or a pattern of behavior. That doesn't matter. No matter what the reason, you need to figure out exactly what happened so you can deal with it if it happens again. It is possible to get an ex back, but you have to be honest about why the break-up happened in the first place, and you have to be honest about what went wrong.
One thing you don't want to do - and I speak from personal experience about this - is to come off as a needy person. You make feel like you can't live without your ex, it may hurt, you may cry but don't make it obvious! Instead, stay strong and let your ex know that you are doing just fine without him or her. Radiate self-confidence, even if you have to fake it. If you can do this then you have a better chance of getting your ex back.
Another thing - don't try and get back at your ex. Don't try to make them jealous. Sometimes these things can be the worst things to do. They can show your ex that he or she should simply move on because you already have! While you do want your ex to see that you're doing OK, you don't want them to move on! Letting your ex seeing how strong you are can be one of the best things you can do to get them back.
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